A man in the grocery store line today approached me and said, “Sir, when I first saw you I was extremely attracted to you, but then I noticed that you are a boy. How… I mean, why do you dress so provocatively?”
I responded, “Well, in today’s world the majority of the straight male race view women as objects, or something that belongs to them. I dress provocatively because it attracts the attention of men in a sexual and OBJECTIVE way. However, when realized that I am actually male, they often become confused, disgusted, upset or all of the above. By inflicting this minor emotional damaged upon the ego of a man raised by twisted societal gender norms, maybe, just maybe the individual will think twice before viewing another woman with an objective attitude and sense of belonging. No woman, belongs to ANYONE. Male or female, the equality of human beings needs to be a priority. It is something worth dressing up for.”
I AM NOT KIDDING. The woman behind me, the female cashier, the old lady bagging groceries and the woman in front of me who was talking on the phone STOPPED, …. and proceeded to gasp and clap. The man shook my hand, told me to have a blessed day and then said, “excuse me ladies, I need to visit my daughter.”
…. I was shaking by the time I walked out of the store.
- Elliott Alexzander
I am on an online shopping spree this month!
Just bought phone screen and casing for my blackberry (which I decided to keep using, for the time being anyway) and 2 glasses from Selectspecs.co.uk!
I spent RM26 on phone accessories and RM100(ish) for the glasses. RM50 per glasses is cheap! I prefer to buy cheap ones because I lose them all the time.
Hmmm what else should I buy..? I’m currently allowing myself to get semi-need items. Walking around in cracked glasses is no longer gonna cut it for my professional life.
By Josh Shahryar
In the past couple of days, I’ve been witness to something that has angered me beyond measure. Some Muslim women started a hashtag on Twitter to talk about their issues. Why Twitter you ask? Well, because women’s issues are only marginally covered in the broader…
Today is the last day of March, and also marks 3 months’ worth of tracking spending data!
Some major things:
- Spent about RM7000 in 3 months, average about RM2300 per month.
- I have to get real about the true costs of my groceries bills. Its closer to RM300 than RM200.
- Spent RM900+ on donations and gifts. That’s RM800 more than actually budgeted for but heck it, I can live with that.
- I spend about RM35 on tobacco a month
- … And RM50 a month goes to food… The ones you pick up out of boredom or cravings… Seems I give in to my cravings too much… Something to make a note on.
The rest of of my budget didn’t raise any red flags. Good.
Things to do:
- Drastically cut out naughty spending on munchies food
- For groceries, nothing much to do as gf is following a super healthy diet and I’m feeling the benefits. Will increase to a more realistic amount.
Li Ka-Shing teaches you how to buy a car & house in 5 years
Hong Kong billionaire Li Ka-Shing shares some of his money wisdom, outlining an inspirational five-year plan to improve one’s lot in life
This article is translated from the original Chinese by Edmund Ng at CeoConnectz.
No matter how much you earn, always divide it into 5 set of funds.
The first set of funds is used for living expenses.
It’s a simple way of living and you can only be assigned to less than twenty dollars a day. A daily breakfast of vermicelli, an egg and a cup of milk. For lunch just have a simple set lunch, a snack and a fruit. For dinner go to your kitchen and cook your own meals that consist of two vegetables dishes and a glass of milk before bedtime. For one month the food cost is probably $500-$600. When you are young, the body will not have too many problems for a few years with this way of living.
Second set of funds: To make friends, expand your interpersonal circle.
This will make you well off. Your phone bills can be budgeted at RMB 100. You can buy your friends 2 lunches a month, each at $150. Who should you buy lunch for? Always remember to buy lunch for people who are more knowledgeable than you, richer than you or people who have helped you in your career. Make sure you do that every month. After one year, your circle of friends should have generated tremendous value for you. Your reputation, influence, added value will be clearly recognized. You’ll also enhance your image of being good and generous.
Third set of funds: To learn.
Monthly spend about RMB 50 to RMB 100 to buy books. Because you don’t have a lot of money, you should pay attention to learning. When you buy the books, read them carefully and learn the lessons and strategies that is being taught in the book. Each book, after reading them, put them into your own language to tell the stories. Sharing with others can improve your credibility and enhance the affinity. Also save up $200 per month to attend a training course. When you have higher income or additional savings, try to participate in more advanced training. When you participate in good training, not only do you learn good knowledge, you also get to meet like-minded friends who are not easy to come by.
Fourth set of funds: Use it for holidays overseas.
Reward yourself by traveling at least once a year. Continue to grow from the experience of life. Stay in youth hostels to save cost. In a few years you would have travelled to many countries and have different experiences. Use that experience to recharge yourself so that you’ll continually have passion in your work.
Fifth set of funds: Invest.
Save the $500 in your bank and grow it as your initial startup capital. The capital can then be used to do a small business. Small business is safe. Go to wholesalers and look for products to sell. Even if you lose money, you will not lose too much money. However, when you start earning money, it will boost your confidence and courage and have a whole new learning experience of running a small business. Earn more and you can then begin to buy long-term investment plans and get long-term security on your financial wealth being of yourself and your families. So that no matter what happens, there will be adequate funds and the quality of life will not decline.
Try to buy minimal clothes and shoes. You can buy them all you want when you’re rich.
Save your money and buy some gift for your loved ones and tell them your plans and your financial goals.
Businessmen everywhere need help. Offer yourself to do part time for any kind of opportunities. This will help to hone your will and improve your skills.
No matter how much you earn, always remember to divide it into five parts proportionately. Always make yourself useful.
Increase your investment in networking. When you increase your social investment, expand your network of contacts, your income also grows proportionately.
Increase your investment in learning, strengthen your self confidence, increase investment in holidays, expand your horizons and increase investment in the future, and that will ultimately increase your income.
Life can be designed. Career can be planned. Happiness can be prepared. You should start planning now.
When you are poor, spend less time at home and more time outside. When you are rich, stay at home more and less outside. This is the art of living.
When you are poor, spend money on others. When you’re rich, spend money on yourself. Many people are doing the opposite.
When you are poor, be good to others. Don’t be calculative. When you are rich, you must learn to let others be good to you. You have to learn to be good to yourself better.
When you are poor, you have to throw yourself out in the open and let people make good use of you. When you are rich, you have to conserve yourself well and don’t let people easily make use of you.
These are the intricate ways of life that many people don’t understand.
When you are poor, spend money so that people can see it. When you are rich, do not show off. Just silently spend the money on yourself.
When you are poor, you must be generous. When you are rich, you must not be seen as a spendthrift.
You do not need to be afraid of being poor. You need to know how to invest in yourself and increase your wisdom and stature. You need to know what is important in life and what is worth investing in. You also need to know what you should avoid and not spend your money on. This is the essence of discipline.
Try to avoid spending money on clothing, but buy a selective number of items that have class.
Try to eat less outside. If you were to eat outside, do make sure you buy lunches or dinners and foot the bill.
When buying people dinner, make sure you buy dinners for people who have bigger dreams than you, and work harder than you.
Once your livelihood is no longer an issue, use the remainder of your money to pursue your dreams. Spread your wings and dare to dream! Make sure you live an extraordinary life!
Famous theory from Harvard: The difference of a person’s fate is decided from what a person spends in his free time between 20:00 to 22:00 . Use these two hours to learn, think and participate in meaningful lectures or discussion.
No matter how much you earn, remember to split your salary into five parts. Take care of your body so that it will still be in good shape. Invest in your social circle so that you will constantly meet new people where you can learn new knowledge from. Expanding your network will also have an important impact in how much you earn eventually. Travel every year and expand your horizons.